Anonymous asked: Dear sister, Masha'Allah for being the only sibling in your family to wear hijab. you really inspire me to wear the hijab one day Insha'Allah but may I ask why you chose to wear it? In other words why do YOU wear hijab? Jazakallah
Salaam Alaykum my love,
First and foremost, All praises be to Allah who guided me to wear hijab. I honestly do not think I am the best representation of hijab although I do intend to wear the niqab very soon In Shaa Allah.
My answer is going to be a little lengthy because there are a number of reasons why I decided to wear hijab but I’ll try and make each point quick and concise…
Because I’m free!
No one has the right to see anything of me that I don’t give them permission to see. It’s my right to choose who gets to see the best of me – and that will be the one who Allah gave the right to see me, the one who is halal for me, not some stranger. This is a man who will, In Shaa Allah, have the same feelings of love towards me, and will be willing to sacrifice for me like I sacrifice for him. Also there’s no way I’m going to degrade myself by becoming an object to be seen by the eyes of every man and stranger. And I’m not going to let anyone steal a glance at my bare body, so long as I can help it.
Because I respect myself
I value myself and will not enter that sexual race where the prize is a vulgar word, a lustful glance, or the offer of an inappropriate friendship or relationship.
Because my “beauty” isn’t just on the outside
When my husband comes along, the one I will marry and give a part of my life to, the one I will share my hopes and dreams with, the one who will become the father of my children – he will not choose me because of my body, In Shaa Allah. I do not want him to love me for it; I want him to know me for who I really am, to love my personality, to respect my values. Beauty fades with age, but the soul does not. There are many women out there who choose to wear the hijab after they are married, thinking that is how they will win a husband over initially. But if it was beauty that won him over in the first place, it can win him over again with another woman.
Because I fear for myself
Then there’s another reason, a more important reason, and it’s the hijab: that hijab I will one day wear as part of my burial clothes. There’s one difference here – I won’t have a choice about whether I wear that hijab or not, so why not wear it in this life, while I have the choice to follow the command of Allah? Allah asks us to be modest even in our graves when no one will see us or value us, so why shouldn’t we do it while alive? I want to wear hijab before it’s too late to be rewarded for it, before it’s too late to avoid punishment for not wearing it. I would rather walk this earth obeying and pleasing my Lord because I choose to, rather than meeting Him on the Day of Judgment having displeased Him.
BECAUSE ALLAH SAID SO.
But in the end, these are all secondary reasons, all reasons that come after the most important reason of all: I wear my hijab to obey Allah and worship Him. Even if I did not know the wisdom behind hijab or have any other reason for wearing it, I would still wear it because He has asked me to. I choose to be of those who say, “We hear and we obey” [2:285].
And that is why I wear my hijab, Walhamdulilah. May Allah make the hijab a jewel to you and every Muslim woman, as it is to me.